"Happy Children, Happy Home"tm parenting classes connecting East & West

The desire to control children is fear based. Fear stems never from love. We can never really control somenone else,as much force, punishment or reward we choose to use..If education is intrinsically oriented, when issues are taken as moments of learning opportunities, punishment and reward become primitive tools, who create merely frustration, anger or fear for 'what if'..Observation without judgment, criticism and interpretation gives so much respect to the other person...most of the time behavior is not badly intended, and if it is so, than the cause calls for clarity and not for simple punishment. What do we want? A happy world with real relationships, or superficial behavior, alianated from real connecting with each other. Why intimate relationships are often at stake or hard to maintain on a high fulfilling level, much of the causes are to be found in the conditional-loving approaches as the use of the punishment reward system creates. Most of us don't remember the reason for a cetain punshment in childhood, but only the feelings related to the punishment. Consequences, not punishment wrapped in another coat, but based on honoring the needs and values of the other(s) involved, will result in understanding and ethical learning of the 'delinquent'...An approach that generates respect instead of blunt anger...